Acceptance: Moving Beyond Likes and Dislikes

One of the profound lessons of meditation is the cultivation of acceptance. In our daily lives, we are often caught in a cycle of pursuing what we like and avoiding what we dislike. This binary approach to life can lead to frustration and dissatisfaction, as we cannot control external circumstances.
Meditation teaches us to observe our thoughts and emotions without judgment, fostering a sense of acceptance. As we sit in stillness, we become aware of our likes and dislikes, our desires and aversions, but we do not act on them. Instead, we acknowledge them and let them pass, like clouds drifting across the sky.

The Present Moment: A Sanctuary of Calm

The essence of meditation is being fully present in the moment. Our minds are often preoccupied with the past or the future, reliving past events or worrying about what is to come. This constant time travel creates a sense of unease and prevents us from experiencing the richness of the present moment. And your life happens here and now, in front of your eyes. Through meditation, we learn to anchor ourselves in the here and now, allowing us to experience the present moment with clarity and calm.
Being present in the moment does not mean we ignore our responsibilities or become indifferent to the future. It means that we approach life with a sense of mindfulness, fully engaging with whatever we do at any given time.
 

Finding peace of mind through meditation is a journey from chaos to calm which I wish all of you.

When I started to practice yoga, I couldn’t close my eyes even for a few minutes. My thoughts were constantly bombarding me and it felt like my head would explode. But I knew I wanted to try meditation and work with my mind. So I started with 60 seconds. After a couple of weeks I extended it to three minutes, then five, ten and today I can stay in meditation for over an hour. Someone in the class asked me – why do I do it? And my answer always will be – because it transformed my life and allowed me to find peace of mind.

In the hustle and bustle of modern life, finding peace of mind often feels like chasing a mirage in a desert. Our minds are constantly inundated with thoughts, worries, and distractions, making tranquillity elusive. However, meditation offers a pathway to serenity, providing a sanctuary from the relentless turmoil within, and calming the frantic mind. Meditation also fosters acceptance and presence, allowing us to move beyond our likes and dislikes and embrace the present moment fully.
 

In today’s fast-paced world, our minds are perpetually in overdrive. We are bombarded with information from multiple sources, and the constant connectivity through smartphones and social media exacerbates this mental overload. This relentless influx of stimuli keeps our minds in a state of hyperactivity, leading to stress, anxiety, and a sense of being overwhelmed. The frantic nature of our thoughts creates a mental environment where peace of mind is hard to cultivate.

 Meditation serves as an antidote to this mental chaos. At its core, meditation is the practice of focusing the mind on a single point of reference. This can be the breath, a mantra, or even the sensations in the body. By directing our attention to this singular focus, we quiet the cacophony of thoughts and create space for stillness and clarity. And no matter what happens in our mind we focus on the breath, coming back constantly, allowing the thoughts, feelings, and emotions simply to dissolve. Keep coming back to your breath even if it takes a million times. With time the mind will be calmer and quieter. Imagine the mind as a turbulent ocean, with waves of thoughts crashing constantly. Meditation is like finding a calm spot in this stormy sea, allowing us to anchor ourselves and experience the tranquillity beneath the surface. This focused attention helps to tame the frantic mind, reducing the constant chatter and bringing a sense of calm and order.

The spring is coming. And every morning I watch in my garden daffodils and dandelions opening their heads to the sun. And just like the flowers, I open my heart to the experiences the day might bring me.
But very often in the intricate dance of life, we often find ourselves caught in the turmoil of past traumas and hurtful experiences. To shield ourselves from further pain, we sometimes resort to closing off our hearts, creating a protective barrier that we hope will keep us safe. While this coping mechanism may offer temporary relief, it ultimately reduces our ability to fully experience life and find true healing. Closing our hearts is a natural response to protect ourselves from being hurt again. It’s a defense mechanism triggered by the fear of reliving past pain. However, as we barricade ourselves behind emotional walls, we inadvertently limit our capacity for joy, love, and connection.

One method often recommended for releasing the grip of past hurt is to let go of the past itself. This doesn’t mean forgetting or ignoring what happened but rather acknowledging it and consciously choosing to release its hold on our present and future. One therapeutic technique involves writing a letter to the source of our pain, expressing our feelings, and then ceremoniously burning it, symbolizing the release of its power over us.

Another vital aspect of healing is to practice recognizing and embracing our emotions. Often, we become so entangled in our thoughts and feelings that we forget we are not defined by them. Instead, we are the observers of our experiences. By cultivating mindfulness and self-awareness, we can begin to untangle ourselves from the web of negativity and pain, allowing space for healing to occur. Instead of saying I’m angry and focusing on the anger itself, maybe it’s worth exploring. Asking yourself a question It’s interesting, I’m angry. I wonder what triggered that? When in my past did I feel like that?

Moreover, it’s essential to let go of the desire for things to be different than they are. Resisting unpleasant emotions only amplifies our suffering. Instead, we must learn to accept them as part of the human experience. Just as an orchestra plays a symphony with its highs and lows, so too does the heart produce a range of emotions. By embracing this truth, we can allow the melody of our hearts to flow freely, without judgment or resistance.

By letting go of the past, practising mindfulness, and accepting our emotions, we can begin the journey toward healing and reclaiming the fullness of our hearts. As we release the shackles of past hurt, we open ourselves up to the beauty and richness of life’s experiences, ready to embrace each moment with courage, compassion, and resilience.

Very often I feel like there is a tornado inside of my head, and yoga allows me to stay still in the middle of that chaos. It allows me to find the eye of the tornado, the still point where you can see everything flying around you and yet you are not impacted, the houses and the cars. I’m sure you’ve seen it in the movie before. Now imagine those things flying around are your thoughts, your feelings, your memories or your plans for the future.  What happens when you grab one of them? You will go around in a circle with them. And to get back to that still point you have to let go. Ground yourself and let go.

Grounding is a practice that involves reconnecting with the present moment and anchoring oneself in reality. Here are some common grounding techniques we explored in the class last month:

Walking barefoot on grass: This technique involves physically connecting with the earth by removing shoes and socks and allowing your bare feet to touch the grass. Whether it’s a lush green lawn or crisp winter snow, the sensation of the ground beneath your feet can help you feel more rooted and connected to nature.

5, 4, 3, 2, 1 technique: This technique engages the senses to bring awareness to the present moment. Start by naming 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste. This exercise shifts your focus away from racing thoughts and redirects it to your immediate surroundings.

Splash of water: Splashing cold water on your face or taking a quick shower can snap you out of a spiral of anxious thoughts. The sensation of water can be refreshing and invigorating, helping you to feel more awake and alert.

Furry pillow: Holding or cuddling a soft, furry pillow can provide a comforting tactile sensation. The texture of the pillow can be soothing and grounding, helping to calm the nervous system and promote relaxation.

Mantra or counting: Focusing on a repetitive phrase or counting can help quiet the mind and bring attention to the present moment. Mantras like “I am calm and centred” or simply counting from one to thirty can serve as anchors, preventing your thoughts from drifting into worry or rumination. We’ll explore more of that in April’s workshop.

These grounding techniques can be practiced individually or combined depending on what works best for you. The key is to experiment with different methods and find what resonates with your unique needs and preferences. By incorporating grounding practices into your daily routine, you can cultivate a greater sense of inner peace, resilience, and well-being.