Trusting Life
Personally, I have a love-hate relationship with life. I always see it as this separate entity floating around or above me. You can call it whatever you want but I’m sure you know what I mean. I really believe (and again it doesn’t have to be your belief) that life is an all-knowing, loving entity trying to help me each day. However, the conditioning of my mind and everything I have been programmed with is not allowing me to see the bigger picture. In those moments I feel like a victim and complain about how life is unfair. Only after a while do I realise that whatever happened to me, happened for a reason.
I remember the day when I and my husband decided to buy a house together. Our first house was repossession and just when we were about to sign the contract with a solicitor, the agent rang that the cash buyer paid £1000 more than our offer and the house never became ours. I cried for a week, asking myself questions like “Why does it happen to me?”. The second house had problems with unfinished roads and it took us months to realise that this won’t happen as well. Now I started to question if the universe actually wants us to be together. At the same time, my cousin managed to buy land and build a house and we still couldn’t find ours. And only when we walked to our current house I understood everything. I fell in love with it at first sight and it was 500 times better than any of the other houses we had seen. We bought it within weeks with no issues whatsoever.
Trusting life doesn’t mean not to try. Trusting life means having an open mind and understanding that life gives us what we need which is not always what we want at the time.
In a world often filled with uncertainty and chaos, learning to trust life can be a powerful and transformative practice. Trusting life means surrendering to the flow of existence, embracing your own vulnerability, and allowing yourself to be guided by intuition. But it’s not always the easiest practice, especially for people like me who are control freaks. So what can we do?
- Embrace Your Helplessness
One of the paradoxes of life is that true strength often arises from embracing our vulnerabilities and accepting our limitations. It’s essential to acknowledge that we are not always in control of every aspect of our lives. There are situations where we must confront our own helplessness and recognize that it’s okay not to have all the answers. When you embrace your helplessness, you open yourself up to growth and resilience. Instead of resisting it, you accept it as a part of the human experience. In doing so, you become more adaptable and better equipped to navigate life’s challenges.
- Release What You Cannot Control
Control is a concept many of us struggle with. We often cling to the idea that if we can control every aspect of our lives, we can prevent suffering or guarantee our desired outcomes. However, this desire for control can lead to stress, anxiety, and disappointment when things don’t go as planned. And often they are out of our control. Trusting life involves releasing the need to control everything and understanding that some things are beyond our influence. By letting go of control, you free up mental and emotional energy to focus on what you can change and make more mindful choices.
- Listen to Your Intuition
Your intuition is a powerful guiding force that can help you make decisions aligned with your true self and your deepest desires. Trusting life means learning to listen to this inner wisdom. It often speaks softly, through gut feelings, hunches, or subtle nudges, but it can be a reliable compass in the journey of life. So tap into your intuition, and create space for stillness and self-reflection. Practice mindfulness, meditation, or journaling to connect with your inner voice. As you become more attuned to your intuition, you’ll find it easier to make choices that resonate with your authentic self.
- See Life as a Teacher – Everything Happens for a Reason
Life is an ever-evolving classroom, that offers us valuable lessons and experiences. Instead of viewing challenges and setbacks as obstacles to overcome, try to see them as opportunities for growth. Every situation, whether positive or negative, can teach you something valuable. When you embrace the idea that everything happens for a reason, you shift your perspective from being a victim to empowerment. You become more resilient and open to learning, knowing that even the most challenging moments can ultimately contribute to your personal development.
- Create a Relationship with Life
Trust is the foundation of any meaningful relationship, and your relationship with life is no different. Cultivate a sense of trust in the universe, or whatever higher power or belief system resonates with you. Understand that life is not your enemy but your ally on this journey. Building a positive relationship with life involves gratitude, acceptance, and a willingness to collaborate with the forces at play. When you trust that life has your best interests at heart, you can navigate its ebbs and flows with greater ease.
- Surrender to Life
Perhaps the most profound aspect of trusting life is the act of surrender. Surrendering does not mean giving up; it means letting go of resistance and allowing life to unfold naturally. It’s an act of faith in the inherent wisdom of the universe. Surrender requires patience, humility, and a willingness to embrace uncertainty. It means trusting that, ultimately, things will work out as they are meant to, even if you can’t see the full picture in the present moment.
Trusting life is an ongoing practice that can bring a profound sense of peace and fulfillment. Trusting life allows you to embrace the beauty of the unknown and find meaning in every moment, no matter where your journey takes you. So what do you have to lose? Try it.
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